Exclusive Interview with Jessica from Big Women, Big Love

Jessica "Glam Boss" Aamons from "Big Women, Big Love"

Love her or hate her, Jessica captures your attention every time she appears on the screen.  As one of the stars of Lifetime's newest reality television show "Big Women, Big Love", Jessica has gotten a lot of slack for being the mean girl.  And sometimes delusional.  But is that the REAL Jessica?  Smooching Frogs landed an exclusive interview with her right before the season finale, which is expected to air on 2/19 at 10pm.

As I prepared to call Jessica, I couldn't help but notice her status on Skype: "You're my drug...and I just relapsed."  The drama and passion in those words alone.  I knew I was in for a treat.  She picked up the phone while driving home, and we were off.

Does Jessica really think she's a skinny girl?

Blogs and forums questioned Jessica's use of the word "skinny" to describe herself.  During our interview she addressed it head on.  When asked about her contradictory statements about being "big & beautiful" and "skinny" she answers with a question: "why can't it be both?"  She went on to say, "it's more of a mindset, and attitude...because clearly you can still divide my pants size by four."  Jessica further clarified by saying that when she lost 110 pounds, people that knew her would say she was getting skinny.  So her use of the word is relative to where she was when she began her weight loss journey.

How is Jessica's relationship with  the other girls now?

Another topic that plagued many viewers was Jessica's treatment of the other girls.  Jessica and Jenn had a heated exchange during the seminar in L.A.  The trip ended with Jessica leaving abruptly, and a lot of unanswered questions for the audience.  Jessica stated that she and Sabrina get along really well.  Her and Mar have become somewhat friendly while she and Christie bonded after a taping of "The Real".  Jenn...well that's another story.

"In lieu of the last episode, and Jenn's dramatic breakdown, I saw some of the Twitter feed, like what people had to say to her.  And it was mean.  And I remember when the shoe was on the other foot.  And how I felt when the shoe was on the other foot and people were coming for me. And I reached out to Jenn, and to my dismay, Jenn had nothing to say back.  So I guess it's safe to say she's still butt hurt about things that happened a long time ago."

Jessica also stated that her quarrel with Jenn began long before the outburst at the table.  In fact, according to Jessica, "that was not our first run in that night."  So yeah, it's safe to say there's still some bad blood.

On being compared to fellow Georgia Peach Nene Leakes...

"I think in terms of fabulosity, the Nene Leakes reference is on the money. I think Nene knows that she can stir the pot.  But like it or not, you love to hate her.  And she doesn't care.  And I think I have a little bit of that in me...I think I was portrayed accurately." 

Did Jessica Find Love?

*Jessica was a bit elusive about what occurred between her and Eric post-production citing, "people argue.  There are lovers' quarrels. Girls do girl things.  Boys do boy things".  So there's definitely a story.  Jessica gave us tidbits and said that they are "seeing where things go".  Hopefully there will be a season two so that we can find out all of the details!

*A previous version stated that Jessica and Eric were together. However, she never actually confirmed their relationship status.

Be sure to watch the season finale.  Live tweet with us using #bigwomenbiglove and #teamericandjessica

Click below for full audio of the interview!  Transcript coming soon!

Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me a Match.com

Previously I mentioned trying five dating sites without much luck, and promised reviews on all of them.  Well here goes.

About three years ago, I signed up for Match.com.  The user interface was pretty easy to navigate through.  It reminded me of most social networking sites.  What I liked about Match is that you could browse the site without being a paid member (this is the case for many dating sites now). However, a paid membership is required to view messages and admirers. That is exactly what I did.

I purchased a three month subscription.  Quite frankly, the site got old quickly.  The pickings were slim for men in my area.  At one point, I started seeing the same faces repeatedly.  And the profiles were lackluster.  I stopped using it well before the three month trial was up.  A co-worker mentioned Plenty of Fish, and told me that it was free.  And so began my next adventure.

On a positive note, Match.com's customer service was pretty good.  Their system is set up to auto-renew your subscription at the end of the billing period.   Since I hadn't been using the service, I called to cancel and obtain a refund for the auto-renewal.  They were accommodating.

Oh, and there were no creepers from Match, either.

Five Sites and No Cigar

Online dating.  Love it or hate it, the phenomenon brings a sense of curiosity with it. Even those who never thought they would be into "that sort of thing" have found themselves perusing dating sites hoping to find their paramour.  Some *cough, cough* have drifted to numerous sites (try five) to see what they have to offer.  Hey, a gal can't call herself a dating guru without doing her research.

Overall, I think the logic behind online dating is solid. You like a profile for a number of reasons - the person has similar taste in music, you both love the great outdoors, or they are just plain hot. You communicate back and forth with potentials.  My super logical bestie came up with a theoretical calculation for choosing mates...and it worked!  She is now happily tied down from her romp with online dating.  But that approach doesn't work for everyone.

First, let's start with opening lines.  Some people are great at it.  Others aren't.  And then there are those that are downright offensive:

Riiight... because "Hello, how are you" just won't get the job done.

Once the conversation gets rolling, communication becomes a lot easier.  You get to learn more about the other person (i.e. how much inner crazy they have).  It is also possible to gauge whether chemistry exists between the two of you.  Next comes the phone number exchange.

Typically text messages follow online interactions.  If a fellow has the chutzpah to call you, give him a brownie point or two!  A majority of the guys I have met (whether online or in person) prefer texting over talking.  Even after mentioning that talking on the phone is preferable, they continued to text *mental eye roll*. That's not even reading the tea leaves wrong...it's just plum laziness.  In any event, if he continues to pass the ink blot test and all is well, a first date ensues.

Coffee dates are great first, semi-blind date venues. I mean the best.  They are great for conversation.  You don't have to worry about getting food stuck in your teeth (unless, of course, you order food).  And they can be cut short easily if things go south.  No waiting around for the other person to eat, or the waitress moving at a snail's pace to bring back the check.  Nope.  Coffee is usually paid for at the time of service.  If something "suddenly" comes up, and you need to bolt, go for it. 

As you can see, I've developed sort of a roadmap here.  Experiences vary for everyone.  However, this is a pretty spot on template...and it just doesn't work for me.  I find that I like chemistry to develop organically.  Online dating feels forced...like there's some sort of an expectation for me to open my legs, get married next week, or both.  Coming up, I will give a detailed review of all five dating sites that I've tried - leaving no stone unturned.

Have you had success with online dating?  Let us know about it in the comments!