Movie Review: 50 Shades of Grey

Since viewing the trailer last May, I've been moaning "uh-oh, uh-oh, uh-oh, oh no no" every chance I get.  Well, maybe just randomly during conversations with friends.  I watched it numerous times, anticipating the moment I could see ALL 50 shades of Mr. Grey from platinum to slate, and everything in between.  Me and a few friends made this our Valentine's Day outing.

I wasn't sure what to expect.  There has been a lot of hype around the movie due to the popularity of the book.  Admittedly, E.L. James is no Charles Dickens, but the sexy billionaire with mommy issues and a twitchy palm seemed to beat any "great expectations" readers had for timeless literature.  I'm sure hot sex scenes and BDSM might have had something to do with its widespread reception. 

From the beginning scene with James Dornan running in the rain, my body perked up.  Ummm...who is he and where has he been?  His portrayal of Christian Grey was remarkable.  From his intense, borderline psychotic stares to his seductive movements, it was as if he had climbed right out of the pages of James's books onto the screen.

Dakota Johnson's performance as Anastasia Steele was hit and miss in my opinion.  It took a bit for me to get into her. Let's start with her interview with Christian.  While I don't recall the details of the book itself, her chewing on the tip of the pencil felt manufactured.  She went from tripping in the doorway to chewing seductively on the tip of a pencil (one that she herself didn't bring into the interview) in a matter of minutes.  One could argue that it was a nervous habit of hers, but eh. 

Steele's character in the movie seemed more sure of herself than in the book.  Less of the annoying inner dialog and more back talk to Christian's craziness.  Yes!  Johnson's character maintained the naive, curious traits from the book while adding more individuality.  When she told Christian she was going to visit her mother in Savannah, she didn't back down even after he had his little tantrum.  Sure he practically dragged her from the table then stalked her all the way down there (red flag), but she didn't back down.  Simply put, Ana was less pathetic in the movie.  And I approve of that message.

Other reviews that I've read called the chemistry between Johnson and Dornan into question.  I saw a magnetic pull between the two of them.  The kind of attraction that keeps a person coming back...like a moth to a flame.  Christian is mysterious, dangerous, and exciting.  His behavior is erratic.  He warns Ana to stay away.  Yet the two of them can't seem to abstain from one another.  Ana sees the signs, but lets her curiosity get the best of her while Christian struggles with his demons and newfound love for her.  It all comes to a head at the end when she asks him to show her how bad he wants to hurt her, and he does.  Something about that scene gripped me.  His satisfaction, her pain and tears. Yeah, I'd definitely say there was a twisted chemistry there.

Now I'm going to get downright nit picky.  Those shoes she wore.  Those.damn.shoes.  Can wardrobe please intervene?  Can the budget be increased?  Can we start a crowdfunding campaign?  I just really, really want her to have better shoes for the next movie.  Also, Dakota looked old(er) to me.  There were a few times during movie when I thought to myself "she looks a little long in the tooth to play Anastasia".  As it turns out, Dakota Johnson is only 25.  Not sure if she's a natural blond, but she does look more youthful with blond hair in my opinion.  But as we all know, Ana is a brunette.  Still thought it was worth mentioning though.

Overall, I'd have to say this is one of the only movies that I enjoyed more than the book itself.  50 Shades of Grey was a decent read.  The director did a great job of extracting the essence of the characters without inundating the audience with unnecessary details.  Almost all of the scenes were exactly as I had imagined them while reading the book.  Kudos  And the ending.  We all knew it was coming, but we didn't think it would be so abrupt.  They set it up perfectly for a sequel.  I didn't leave disappointed, and look forward to the next opening weekend.

Exclusive Interview with Jessica from Big Women, Big Love

Jessica "Glam Boss" Aamons from "Big Women, Big Love"

Jessica "Glam Boss" Aamons from "Big Women, Big Love"

Love her or hate her, Jessica captures your attention every time she appears on the screen.  As one of the stars of Lifetime's newest reality television show "Big Women, Big Love", Jessica has gotten a lot of slack for being the mean girl.  And sometimes delusional.  But is that the REAL Jessica?  Smooching Frogs landed an exclusive interview with her right before the season finale, which is expected to air on 2/19 at 10pm.

As I prepared to call Jessica, I couldn't help but notice her status on Skype: "You're my drug...and I just relapsed."  The drama and passion in those words alone.  I knew I was in for a treat.  She picked up the phone while driving home, and we were off.

Does Jessica really think she's a skinny girl?

Blogs and forums questioned Jessica's use of the word "skinny" to describe herself.  During our interview she addressed it head on.  When asked about her contradictory statements about being "big & beautiful" and "skinny" she answers with a question: "why can't it be both?"  She went on to say, "it's more of a mindset, and attitude...because clearly you can still divide my pants size by four."  Jessica further clarified by saying that when she lost 110 pounds, people that knew her would say she was getting skinny.  So her use of the word is relative to where she was when she began her weight loss journey.

How is Jessica's relationship with  the other girls now?

Another topic that plagued many viewers was Jessica's treatment of the other girls.  Jessica and Jenn had a heated exchange during the seminar in L.A.  The trip ended with Jessica leaving abruptly, and a lot of unanswered questions for the audience.  Jessica stated that she and Sabrina get along really well.  Her and Mar have become somewhat friendly while she and Christie bonded after a taping of "The Real".  Jenn...well that's another story.

"In lieu of the last episode, and Jenn's dramatic breakdown, I saw some of the Twitter feed, like what people had to say to her.  And it was mean.  And I remember when the shoe was on the other foot.  And how I felt when the shoe was on the other foot and people were coming for me. And I reached out to Jenn, and to my dismay, Jenn had nothing to say back.  So I guess it's safe to say she's still butt hurt about things that happened a long time ago."

Jessica also stated that her quarrel with Jenn began long before the outburst at the table.  In fact, according to Jessica, "that was not our first run in that night."  So yeah, it's safe to say there's still some bad blood.

On being compared to fellow Georgia Peach Nene Leakes...

"I think in terms of fabulosity, the Nene Leakes reference is on the money. I think Nene knows that she can stir the pot.  But like it or not, you love to hate her.  And she doesn't care.  And I think I have a little bit of that in me...I think I was portrayed accurately." 

Did Jessica Find Love?

*Jessica was a bit elusive about what occurred between her and Eric post-production citing, "people argue.  There are lovers' quarrels. Girls do girl things.  Boys do boy things".  So there's definitely a story.  Jessica gave us tidbits and said that they are "seeing where things go".  Hopefully there will be a season two so that we can find out all of the details!

*A previous version stated that Jessica and Eric were together. However, she never actually confirmed their relationship status.

Be sure to watch the season finale.  Live tweet with us using #bigwomenbiglove and #teamericandjessica

Click below for full audio of the interview!  Transcript coming soon!

Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me a Match.com

Previously I mentioned trying five dating sites without much luck, and promised reviews on all of them.  Well here goes.

About three years ago, I signed up for Match.com.  The user interface was pretty easy to navigate through.  It reminded me of most social networking sites.  What I liked about Match is that you could browse the site without being a paid member (this is the case for many dating sites now). However, a paid membership is required to view messages and admirers. That is exactly what I did.

I purchased a three month subscription.  Quite frankly, the site got old quickly.  The pickings were slim for men in my area.  At one point, I started seeing the same faces repeatedly.  And the profiles were lackluster.  I stopped using it well before the three month trial was up.  A co-worker mentioned Plenty of Fish, and told me that it was free.  And so began my next adventure.

On a positive note, Match.com's customer service was pretty good.  Their system is set up to auto-renew your subscription at the end of the billing period.   Since I hadn't been using the service, I called to cancel and obtain a refund for the auto-renewal.  They were accommodating.

Oh, and there were no creepers from Match, either.