Solange vs. Jay-Z

Solange Knowles didn't need a driver to roll up the partition before laying hands on famous rapper brother in law Jay-Z.  Nope. She just waited for the good ol' fashioned elevator doors to close before pelting him with her purse.  Security footage shows Knowles attacking Jay-Z in a hotel elevator after the Met Gala last week.  A security guard stepped in to restrain Solange.  What was Beyonce doing?  Watching the whole scene go down, just as cool as a cucumber.  Hmmmm....

This came as a surprise to me.  Solange typically seems to be pretty laid back.  Being an expert in Women of Rageology, however, I am aware that a woman on the edge is nothing to fool around with. Period.  So what could have set her off?  No one really knows.  And with the tight lipped Knowles/Carter camp, no one probably ever will.  One can speculate though.  Don't worry.  I already got that covered.

1) Solange called Jay-Z out on mistreating her sister.  It makes sense.  Beyonce didn't even make an attempt to break them up, or help restrain her sister.  Furthermore, she left in a separate car with her sister.  Do those sound like the actions of someone who's drunk in love, crazy in love or dangerously in love? Either way, I don't blame her for staying out of it. 

2) Solange has some sort of mental illness.  Perhaps this isn't the first time Solange has gotten physical.  It would explain why no one really acted as though they were surprised.  I say this is highly unlikely though.

3) Solange was drunk.  Another possibility that would explain why no one seemed too up in arms about her behavior. 

Regardless of the reason, this is family business.  We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.  I think Jay-Z handled himself well.  Given the blatant disrespect many rappers display for women (including Jay-Z), the incident could have gone in a totally different direction.  He didn't take it there.  I hope they can resolve whatever issues they have and move on from this.

Mr. Nice Guy Ain't Always So Nice...

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These days, having a crush is rare for me.  I see something I like, and two seconds later I'm over it.  A few months back, I saw something I liked and sustained it.  I shocked myself! The guy was handsome, well spoken, polite, intriguing - a Prince Charming in the flesh.

I told my mother  and she responded with, "it's probably an act".  Ugh...mothers.  They just don't understand.  They don't get it.  What reason would someone like THAT have to put on an air?  He could have been a total jerk, and still had a gaggle of women swooning at his feet.  No, she didn't get it at all.

Six weeks later, I saw mother's point.  Our chemistry seemed off.  Mundane text messages ripe with canned responses (all of which were very polite) led me to believe I was in a rotation of other women with no chance of survival.  And this passionflower over here does not roll like that. We consciously uncoupled.  Okay.  There was really nothing to uncouple from.  But I love Gwenie's use of the phrase, "consciously uncoupled".

I had a powwow with a few friends of mine shortly thereafter.  Before I could relay my entire story, they nearly finished my sentences word for word.  We all had stories of "Mr. Nice Guy" gone awry.  You see, Mr. Nice Guy is actually another dating ploy.  Many of us women are suckers for the "Prince Charming" persona.  As tiny tots, we've been programmed to be magnetized by these beautiful creatures.  Questioning their sincerity isn't even a thought because we believe they come off of the assembly line this way.  In reality, people have their quirks.  Most men are not picture perfect, and while this may come as a surprise to some, neither are we.  That fairy tale guy just doesn't exist.  However, some guys know they can bank on that misconception to rack up the ladies.

Does that mean we should lower our standards?  Expect less from the opposite sex?  Not exactly.  Men should still be respectful.  And chivalry is not dead (it's just resting on an island with Elvis and Michael Jackson).  Level of attractiveness is also a factor.  It's important to be mindful, though, that these traits are only the tip of the iceberg.  Potentials should be explored and examined thoroughly to obtain an accurate depiction of who they really are.

So needless to say, mama was right.  But I won't tell her that :-P.

Celebrity Frog - Mathew Knowles

Mathew Knowles aka Daddy Knowles aka Beyonce's father is our newest Celebrity Frog inductee.  Knowles has come under scrutiny recently for having his child support payments reduced for his three year old son.  But that's not why he's making the list.  Knowles fathered the child while still married to Beyonce's mother, Tina Knowles.  In addition to that, he hasn't even seen the child.  Ugh!

Tina Knowles filed for divorce shortly after it was revealed that Mathew conceived a love child.  Beyonce divorced him as her manager, and Solange reportedly also cut ties with him.  He lost his wife, daughters and career.  Yikes!  Bet "Say My Name" hit a little close to home then...

As far as him not seeing his child, that child did not ask to be here.  It is not his fault that his father is a liar and cheater.  So because the two parental units in his life decided to make bad decisions, the child has to pay?  Sad.  Hopefully things will work out for him in the end.